A page about the gaps between who I think I am and who I actually am — at least some of the time. Naming something here doesn’t excuse it. If I know it about myself, I’m working on it.

This page is a work in progress. I’m sitting with the questions.

Where self-perception and reality diverge

What feedback from others has genuinely surprised you — the kind where your first instinct was “that’s not accurate,” but turned out to be?

What do people who know you well see in you that you struggle to see in yourself (good or bad)?

What I tend to underestimate or overestimate

Where do you consistently underestimate how long something will take, or how hard it will be?

Where do you assume you understand something well enough — and later realize you only understood the surface?

Patterns under pressure

What does your worst-case version of yourself look like when you’re stressed, tired, or overwhelmed? What behaviors show up that you’re not proud of?

What kinds of situations make you want to disengage or go quiet when you probably shouldn’t?

Feedback I resist

What kinds of criticism do you tend to get defensive about — even when part of you knows it’s fair?

What do you tend to dismiss as “not a big deal” that others experience differently?

Assumptions I rarely question

What do you assume you’re right about that you rarely get challenged on?

Where do you rely on past experience in ways that might not actually apply to the present situation?

What I’m actively working on

What are you trying to get better at right now — not skills, but how you show up?

What would you want someone to call you out on if they saw it happening?

How I work best

What conditions help you do your best work?

How do you prefer to receive feedback?

What consistently drains your energy?

How do you handle conflict or difficult conversations?

What’s your relationship with time and deadlines?

This page was inspired by slashpages.net.